an open note to all the boys that didn’t treat me with respect.

Disclaimer: This is not a hate letter. This is me finally experiencing genuine love and respect and hoping that the boys from my previous relationships have learned some things along the way.

  • Thank you for showing me what love is not.
  • I hope you have learned by now that cancelling plans last minute and expecting your girl to forgive you without hesitation is not realistic.
  • Talking behind your girlfriend’s back will somehow find its way back to her.
  • Thinking that your girlfriend is always looking for attention demonstrates your insecurities. Stop trying to bring other people down.
  • Most of the time arguments were started because I wanted what was best for you… avoiding things like: drugs, binge-drinking, vaping, and procrastinating.
  • Poor communication–ignoring calls, not responding to important texts, and assuming is not attractive.
  • Breaking up with me because I won’t have sex with you is a sign of your immaturity.
  • If you are serious about the person that you’re with, don’t be afraid to introduce them to your friends and family.
  • Make your girlfriend feel special and valued from time to time.
  • Girls appreciate when you make plans ahead of time. It doesn’t have to be a year in advance, but things that are a week or two away can be planned for.
  • Being afraid of commitment is okay at first, but when you cannot provide a reason for why you won’t commit later on, it’s also a sign of immaturity.
  • Lastly, I want each of you to find and experience love. I want you to find a partner who is your best friend, lover, travel partner, plus one to events, etc. I have found that person and it makes everything worth it. You deserve happiness and companionship.



***I do not own the cover image used in this post.***

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